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The world pauses to celebrate International Men’s Day and so do we.As Wise Wives, this isn’t just another date on the calendar. It’s a moment to truly see the men God has placed in our lives: our husbands, sons, brothers, fathers, uncles, and grandfathers.This is our homage to their quiet strength, their steady shoulders, their provision, and the way they keep showing up even when the world offers them very little room to rest.We see something far more profound: servants, protectors, pillars of faith, and men who carry more than they ever say out loud.<h3>Honour Is Fuel&nbsp;</h3> In God’s design, honour is not optional. It’s foundational. Ephesians 5:33 reminds us that respect is deeply tied to a man’s wiring not just in marriage, but in every relationship. Honour strengthens him. It steadies him. It calls him into who he was created to be.Honour isn’t something he earns after he has “performed well.”It’s something that empowers him to rise into his calling.Whether he’s a young man finding his footing or a grandfather guiding the next generation, honour is the air his soul breathes.<h3>Three Intentional Ways to Honour the Men in Our Lives</h3> 1. Speak Life.Men fight their hardest battles in silence.Doubt. Pressure. Fear of failing the people they love.Your words carry weight.A sincere, “I see your effort,” or “Thank you so much for how you provide and protect,” shifts something deep inside a man, whether he’s your husband, your teenage son, or your father.Affirm his character, not just his results.2. Acknowledge the Quiet BurdensMany men carry responsibility the way they carry their breath — quietly.Late nights. Heavy decisions. Silent prayers.Doing their best even when no one notices.A simple, “I appreciate how you show up,” restores strength in places you’ll never see.Honour what he carries, not just what he completes.3. Pray for His PurposeHonour isn’t just spoken, it’s interceded.Pray for his clarity.Pray for wisdom in his leadership.Pray for confidence where the world chips away at him.Pray for protection over his mind, his work, his identity.Your prayers don’t just cover him, they lift him.<h3>A Final Word of Honour</h3> A man who feels genuinely honoured by the women in his life is a man strengthened for every assignment God has given him.This International Men’s Day, may our homes, our words, and our prayers reflect gratitude not just for what our men do, but for who they are.To the men in our lives:We see you. We honour you. We thank God for you. Join Wise Wives 2026 — a community committed to building strong homes and becoming women of wisdom and grace.Call/WhatsApp +260772 421 815<a href="https://selar.com/0379b0" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-mce-href="https://selar.com/0379b0">https://selar.com/0379b0</a>

Celebrating International Men's Day: Honouring the Men in Our Lives

November greets us with two words that carry divine weight, Purpose and Power. But before we walk in either, we must first understand the foundation on which both stand: love.<h2>Loved by God&nbsp;</h2>To be loved by God is to be seen fully — flaws, fears, and all and still be chosen. Realising that His love isn’t earned through productivity or perfection, but freely given through grace.&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; 1 John 4:19 says, “We love because He first loved us.When you know you are loved, you stop trying to prove your worth and start walking in your calling with confidence. That love becomes the soil from which purpose grows.But love isn’t meant to stop with us. It’s meant to flow through us&nbsp; forming how we speak, serve, forgive, and lead. Ephesians 5:2 reminds us: “Walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us.”So, this month, as we embrace Purpose and Power, may our strength be rooted in His love, the kind that steadies, builds, and reflects the heart of God in everything we do.<h3>You Belong&nbsp;</h3>You are loved not because of what you do, but because of who you belong to. And that, dear Wise Wife, is your truest source of power.This November, live loved. Lead with grace. Walk in purpose.Join the Wise Wives 2026 journey,&nbsp; where faith, love, and wisdom meet.Call/WhatsApp+260 772 421 815<a href="https://selar.com/m/wisewives" data-mce-href="https://selar.com/m/wisewives">https://selar.com/m/wisewives</a> <h2> </h2>

Loved Into Purpose

They weren’t angry, just tired.Tired of repeating the same sentences and missing each other by miles. Tired of feeling unseen, unheard, or unappreciated. Tired of walking on eggshells around unspoken frustrations.It wasn’t that love was gone, it was simply buried under the noise of responsibility, the rush of routine, and the quiet ache of miscommunication.Both wanted peace. Neither quite knew how to start.And then came grace, not loud, not demanding, just a quiet reminder to, “Try again. This time, gentler.” <figure id="figure-y1nz52q71kmguwz52b"><img id="y1nz52q71kmguwz52b" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/1aoUiCc5MbthFMysLfrPbbOUA4ZPDEtUHPwxaW91nYkPD5kEZemMGZQ5N4EWykBD.jpg" alt="relationship challenges" title="relationship challenges" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 50% 30%;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="50%" data-positiony="30%" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/1aoUiCc5MbthFMysLfrPbbOUA4ZPDEtUHPwxaW91nYkPD5kEZemMGZQ5N4EWykBD.jpg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 50% 30%;"></figure><h2>When Love Feels Like Work</h2>Love is easy when it’s all laughter and light. But when it becomes work, the intentional kind that requires humility, forgiveness, and restraint, that’s where maturity beginsEphesians 4:2 calls us to that kind of maturity:“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”Grace is the oil that keeps the wheel of marriage turning smoothly. Without it, even love begins to creak. It’s what helps you stay kind when emotions want to shout, it gives you the courage to listen instead of defend, and wisdom to reach out when pride says, “Let him make the first move.”Grace isn’t weakness; it’s divine strength under control. It’s how love breathes again when it’s been gasping for air.<figure id="figure-y9usobi7cpmgux05uf"><img id="y9usobi7cpmgux05uf" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/38WM9C5m0RG5F6QNCE4tHLjvZsONC1aZj272KMSaigryRpPtGbJTgPT2N7TmgsZ4.jpg" alt="open communication" title="open communication" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 1/1; object-position: 85% 0%;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="1:1" data-caption="" data-positionx="85%" data-positiony="0%" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/38WM9C5m0RG5F6QNCE4tHLjvZsONC1aZj272KMSaigryRpPtGbJTgPT2N7TmgsZ4.jpg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 1/1; object-position: 85% 0%;"></figure><h2>Gentleness</h2>A fruit of the Spirit that we often mistake gentleness for weakness, but the truth is, it’s one of the strongest forces in the Kingdom.Jesus, the most powerful man to walk the earth, described Himself as “gentle and humble in heart.” That wasn’t frailty, it was authority under control.Gentleness in marriage doesn’t mean you don’t speak truth. It means you speak it with tendernes. It means saying, “Let’s pray,” instead of “You never listen.”It takes strength to be soft in a world that condones sharpness. And yet, gentleness is how grace gains ground.<figure id="figure-r64iaewkymgux0amf"><img id="r64iaewkymgux0amf" src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/14kKoB9iFLVeEdXgra6KRQIwEEn8ZJh1HTMgPe7xtC4yYjIb8urnUaq8869Vdyw7.jpg" alt="meditation" title="meditation" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 50% 20%;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="50%" data-positiony="20%" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/14kKoB9iFLVeEdXgra6KRQIwEEn8ZJh1HTMgPe7xtC4yYjIb8urnUaq8869Vdyw7.jpg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 50% 20%;"></figure><h3>Stewarding Grace in the Everyday</h3>We often think stewardship means managing money, time, or talent. But our tone and temper are count for trust too.The words you choose and the posture you keep, they build or break the atmosphere in your home.&nbsp;When you steward your emotions with intention, peace takes root. When you lead with humility, harmony grows. When you respond with grace, abundance flourishes.Grace is not passive, it’s active partnership with God. It’s saying, “Lord, help me reflect You here, right now, in this conversation.”Some days, you’ll feel like there’s nothing left to give. You’ve prayed. You’ve shown up. You’ve extended grace, and it feels like it’s running dry.When that happens, remember that grace doesn’t come from you; it flows through you. God’s word says in 2 Corinthians 12:9, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”So let Him refill you. Let Him renew you. You don’t need to have it all together, you just need to stay connected to the Source.And as you do, you’ll find that gentleness returns where irritation tried to settle, that joy rises where weariness lived, and peace, the kind only God gives that wraps around you like sunlight after a storm.<figure id="figure-r1ur1ubkynmgux0ekh"><img id="r1ur1ubkynmgux0ekh" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/39R41wNee8FwMcAfVoUCCa3LfovjVTMPSagHpCDHsAJ3DbGhfcpkGDdhH4eSk3hY.jpg" alt="support group" title="support group" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 1/1; object-position: 50% 25%;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="1:1" data-caption="" data-positionx="50%" data-positiony="25%" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/39R41wNee8FwMcAfVoUCCa3LfovjVTMPSagHpCDHsAJ3DbGhfcpkGDdhH4eSk3hY.jpg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 1/1; object-position: 50% 25%;"></figure><h2>A Prayer for Grace</h2>Father, thank You for the gift of grace, thank You for holding us steady when our strength runs out. Teach us to be humble in speech, gentle in spirit, and patient in love. Let our homes be places where grace is felt, peace is nurtured, and love thrives. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.<figure id="figure-kf237pfbxqmgux0o2i"><img id="kf237pfbxqmgux0o2i" src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/28sBsESrwnYYgSCcXqlZgl0I4feNWu1ZURFfNP6iNE2sFr60ntG3aNe9trHUzrC8.jpg" alt="gratitude journal" title="gratitude journal" class="object-cover bg-gray-100" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 50% 40%;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="50%" data-positiony="40%" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/28sBsESrwnYYgSCcXqlZgl0I4feNWu1ZURFfNP6iNE2sFr60ntG3aNe9trHUzrC8.jpg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 50% 40%;"></figure>Keep showing up, beloved. Your patience isn’t wasted neither is your grace unnoticed. If this blessed you, share it with another wife or woman who is in a season of stretching.Join Wise Wives 2026,&nbsp;a sisterhood committed to growing in wisdom, strength, and grace.Call/WhatsApp +260772421815Or book a Need to Talk session: sometimes, healing begins with one conversation. <a href="https://wisewivescommunity.com/need-to-talk" data-mce-href="https://wisewivescommunity.com/need-to-talk">https://wisewivescommunity.com/need-to-talk</a>

The Power of Grace

Some seasons test your strength in silence. Others stretch your faith in ways words can’t describe. But through them all, one truth remains unshaken, He sees you.Dear Sister,El Roi—the God who sees and knows exactly where you are right now.He sees you in the kitchen before dawn. He sees you juggling responsibilities that would overwhelm most people. He sees you holding back tears during difficult conversations. He sees you laying awake at night, carrying burdens too heavy for your shoulders.He sees the small acts of faithfulness no one applauds.The quiet consistency.The surrendered heart.The diligent hands.<h2>You're Doing Better Than You Think</h2>If no one has told you lately...You're doing amazing.I know you don’t always feel like it. You look at everything left undone and wonder if you’re failing.But stewardship isn’t measured by perfection, it’s measured by faithfulness.And you, beloved, are showing up. Day after day.That’s not failure. That’s faithfulness.There’s beauty in your endurance. Even when strength runs low, your faith still registers as “yes” to God.<h2>When You're Running on Empty</h2>Maybe you’re reading this whilst running on fumes, the tank is empty, the well is dry. You don’t have to be strong or “put together” to receive from Him. David wrote, “The LORD is close to the broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18) That includes you, right where you are.Stewardship doesn’t mean you never get tired it means you bring your tiredness to the One who said, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28)Joy returns where weariness tried to settle, and peace, the kind only God gives wraps around you like sunlight after a storm.<figure id="figure-uy7e5mftmwmgjjdupq"><img id="uy7e5mftmwmgjjdupq" src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/9hUABPZxmOcqmGmkGmZZX9OiDybUBDHMUgvE1xqSkxKLNcV83RASTIMDbeXngglN.jpg" alt="meditation practice" title="meditation practice" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 1/1; object-position: 50% 45%;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="1:1" data-caption="" data-positionx="50%" data-positiony="45%" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/9hUABPZxmOcqmGmkGmZZX9OiDybUBDHMUgvE1xqSkxKLNcV83RASTIMDbeXngglN.jpg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 1/1; object-position: 50% 45%;"></figure><h2>What You Nurture Grows</h2>Every prayer you pray over your children — it’s growing faith in their hearts and peace in your home.Every kind word you speak when you’d rather stay silent — it’s growing gentleness, trust, and emotional safety.Every moment you choose forgiveness over bitterness — it’s growing freedom and fertile ground for love to flourish.What you nurture doesn’t just grow outwardly; it transforms you inwardly. It grows maturity, patience, and the quiet joy that comes from knowing you’ve loved well, even when it wasn’t easy. <h2>A Prayer for You</h2>Father, I lift every woman reading these words to You. See her, Lord. Meet her in her weariness. Strengthen her weakness. Renew her perspective. Pour Your grace into the empty spaces. Let her feel right now that she is seen, heard, loved, and cherished, not for what she does, but for who she is in You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen. <h2>Keep Going</h2>Whatever season you’re in, please know: you matter.Your faithfulness matters. Your consistency matters.The small acts of love that no one notices, God sees them.One day, you’ll hear, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”Until then, keep showing up. Keep stewarding. Keep loving.And when you’re too tired? Remember: He carries you. 💛

He Sees You: Finding Strength in Silent Seasons

She smiled faintly as she passed the mirror on her way out, hair done, outfit coordinated, checklist ready. From the outside, everything looked in order. But inside, her thoughts were loud, her peace was gone, and her prayers had shrunk to survival whispers.She wasn’t fine. But she knew how to look it.Many women live this quiet contradiction, functioning yet fractured, loving yet depleted, present yet emotionally absent. We say, “I’m fine,” when we’re anything but. And whilst the world applauds our strength, heaven calls us to something deeper: wholeness.<h3>Hidden Injuries: The Wounds No One Sees</h3>Adam kept walking after he sinned, but something inside him died. Many of us are walking through life the same way, alive, but emotionally detached. We serve, lead, parent, and perform, but parts of our hearts have gone numb from grief, betrayal, disappointment, or exhaustion.The loss you never fully processed.The betrayal you buried under busyness.The hope deferred that quietly hardened your heart.These are the very spaces God wants to heal.Psalm 34 : 18 reminds us: “The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” His closeness isn’t only for the visibly broken, it’s for the silently suffering too.<h3>Checking Your Emotional Vitals</h3>If a doctor measured your peace, gratitude, and joy the way they measure blood pressure, what would your readings reveal today?Emotional vitals are the indicators of your soul’s health. When peace, joy, or gratitude run low, it’s a sign that something deeper needs attention.Are you emotionally exhausted?Have you mistaken numbness for peace?Do you still feel connected to God, or are you simply functioning on autopilot?The Apostle John’s prayer in 3 John 1 : 2 captures it beautifully:“Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers.”Prosperity begins in the soul. You can’t live abundantly if your emotions are in ruins. <figure id="figure-r19jzjwvzkmggp6sl0"><img id="r19jzjwvzkmggp6sl0" src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/3OQIhn7aEjTxc8U9jQzHfPVoxvymcYTsfJ7nyUjxnvemeZJgXCV28WVr6pPBts8Y.jpg" alt="forgiveness letting go" title="forgiveness letting go" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 40% 10%;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="40%" data-positiony="10%" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/3OQIhn7aEjTxc8U9jQzHfPVoxvymcYTsfJ7nyUjxnvemeZJgXCV28WVr6pPBts8Y.jpg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 40% 10%;"></figure><h2>What Healing Looks Like in Real Life</h2>Healing rarely looks glamorous. It often looks like showing up to prayer when you’d rather stay in bed, journaling tears instead of pretending to smile, choosing forgiveness again, for the fifteenth time.Healing is progressive. Some wounds close quickly; others require consistent care, prayer, and community.Many of us are struggling to reconcile our emotional state with the reality of our circumstances, ailing parents, financial distress, grieving a loved one, enduring infidelity, navigating separation, or facing a silent marriage. You’re not in a happy place; you’re not in a healthy place, but you keep pushing anyway.So how do you bridge the gap between truth and experience, between knowing God’s abundance and actually living it?<h3>Start here:</h3>Name the pain. You can’t heal what you keep hidden.Invite God into it. He heals the parts of us we surrender, not the ones we hide.Let others in. Sometimes breakthrough begins in conversation. When You Feel Broken but God Calls You WholeEmotional healing begins when you realise that your feelings are real, but they aren’t your entire story.You can feel broken but still be loved.You can feel weak but still be chosen.You can feel forgotten but still be seen.Mary didn’t feel “highly favoured” when she faced a possible scandal.David didn’t feel victorious while hiding in caves.Even Jesus didn’t feel triumphant when He wept in Gethsemane.Yet in every case, God’s truth outweighed human emotion.Healing begins when you stop waiting to feel whole and start walking in the truth that you are being made whole.Philippians 1 : 6 assures us: “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion.” <figure id="figure-7rlb37253qmggp6z5f"><img id="7rlb37253qmggp6z5f" src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/1dWIIXkhs7S0YJ3zqNnFX9sosjrFRi4XZBCaAboqEOGX2gDACAnHwpybkh8uZqNA.jpg" alt="prayer meditation" title="prayer meditation" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 " style="aspect-ratio: 1/1; object-position: 90% 5%;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="1:1" data-caption="" data-positionx="90%" data-positiony="5%" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/1dWIIXkhs7S0YJ3zqNnFX9sosjrFRi4XZBCaAboqEOGX2gDACAnHwpybkh8uZqNA.jpg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 1/1; object-position: 90% 5%;"></figure><h3>Abundance from the Inside Out</h3>Many chase abundance in external things, better jobs, bigger homes, perfect families. But real abundance is peace that no circumstance can steal. It’s the ability to stand still and know that God is good even when life doesn’t look like His promises.Isaiah 26 : 3 declares, “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in You.”When your soul is healed, your heart becomes fertile ground for God’s abundance. You stop striving for peace and start living from it.Sometimes we’re walking through a valley or a waiting season. That doesn’t mean God’s promises aren’t true. We see how Jeremiah the prophet cried, and how Jesus Himself wept. Our faith isn’t invalidated by our feelings it’s purified through them.So today, let’s pray for that healing to happen. That we don’t just look okay on the outside, but that indeed, we are well from the inside out. That if someone checked our emotional vitals, it would be well with our souls.And that we would grow so deeply in our spirit that we are no longer moved by circumstances, but anchored in peace.<h2>Your Turn to Heal</h2>Your emotional wellness matters to God. You were never meant to “look fine” while dying inside. You were created to live whole: spirit, soul, and body aligned with Him.Take the brave step to begin your healing journey today.Join Wise Wives 2026, a Christ-centred sisterhood walking together toward wholeness, wisdom, and restoration.Call/WhatsApp+260772421815Or book a “Need to Talk” session — because sometimes healing starts with one honest conversation.<a href="https://wisewivescommunity.com/need-to-talk" data-mce-href="https://wisewivescommunity.com/need-to-talk">https://wisewivescommunity.com/need-to-talk</a>Because abundance isn’t about having more; it’s about becoming whole.<figure id="figure-yilearzyqmggq3upy"><img id="yilearzyqmggq3upy" src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/17gYOSLM9kgTlhkmQR4M2uDu2IKBPub9sQM1ICV6K61eCBkpNIWTk0l9vHrLExQi.jpg" alt="" title="" class="object-cover bg-gray-100" style="aspect-ratio: 1/1; object-position: 80% 50%;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="1:1" data-caption="" data-positionx="80%" data-positiony="50%" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/17gYOSLM9kgTlhkmQR4M2uDu2IKBPub9sQM1ICV6K61eCBkpNIWTk0l9vHrLExQi.jpg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 1/1; object-position: 80% 50%;"></figure>What emotional vital needs your attention today? I honour you for being brave enough to check.

Healing from Within: Embracing Emotional Wellness to Unlock God's Abundance

As we step into October, our theme reminds us of God’s order: abundance first, then stewardship. Before Adam was given responsibility to tend the garden, God had already created Eden in full provision.<h3>Abundance: God’s Promise</h3>Jesus said, “I have come that they may have life, and have it more abundantly” (John 10:10). Abundance is more than material wealth, it is peace, joy, wisdom, and the freedom to live fully in God’s provision.<h3>Stewardship: Our Response</h3>Abundance is God’s gift, but stewardship is our trust. “Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful” (1 Corinthians 4:2). We are caretakers, not owners. Every resource, from our gifts to our time, from our relationships to our finances, belongs to Him.Stewardship is not controlling time but stewarding how we use the time given. Priorities matter. Each “yes” or “no” reveals whether we’re living aligned with God’s Kingdom or caught in the noise of the world.<h3>Heart Before Hand</h3>The condition of the heart shapes the workings of&nbsp; the hand. A sanctified heart produces sanctified stewardship. When abundance and stewardship work together, we experience fruitfulness that glorifies God and blesses generations.Affirmations for October:I live in the overflow of God’s abundance.I steward with wisdom what God entrusts to me.My heart, choices, and priorities are sanctified.I use the time given to me with gratitude. Wise Wives,#AbundanceAndStewardship

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