Resetting Priorities: God, Marriage, and Children
She found herself snapping at her husband for leaving dishes in the sink whilst simultaneously texting friends about weekend plans. The children were arguing in the background, demanding attention she felt too depleted to give. Her prayer life had dwindled to hurried “bless this food” moments between obligations.
When did her life become a constant juggling act where everything felt urgent but nothing felt truly important?
That evening, as she collapsed into bed, a sobering thought struck her: she’d spent the entire day managing her family rather than connecting with them. She was functioning as a coordinator instead of flourishing as a wife and mother. The people who mattered most were getting her leftovers whilst everyone else received her best.
She needed a reset. But where do you begin when everything feels equally demanding?
Putting God First
A reset without God is like rearranging deck chairs on a sinking ship. You can reorganise schedules and promise to be more present, but without Him, you’re building on sand.
"But seek first His kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." ~ Matthew 6:33
When God is first:
Your identity is rooted in His love, not in your performance.
Your strength comes from His endless supply.
Your wisdom flows from His Word, not from culture or family traditions.
If you’re too busy for God, you’re too busy. Period.
Practical reset steps:
Begin your day with Him before anyone else gets your attention (even 10 minutes makes a difference).
Invite Him into everyday tasks, laundry, driving, cooking.
End your day with gratitude instead of scrolling.
The Marriage Reset: Nurturing Your Relationship
Your husband isn’t just another task on your list. He’s your covenant partner, chosen by God before children, careers, or endless responsibilities. But many wives treat their husbands like roommates rather than companions.
Ask yourself:
When was the last time you spoke with him about something deeper than logistics?
Are you more polite to strangers than to him?
Do you focus more on his faults than his strengths?
Marriage reset actions:
Check your tone. Stress is real, but your husband shouldn’t always feel the weight of it.
Forgive quickly. Don’t let grudges choke intimacy. Release what you’ve been holding on to.
Rebuild intimacy intentionally. Prioritise moments of joy and closeness that aren’t about children or problems.
Compliment him. Celebrate his strengths in your words and to others.
Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate ~ Mark 10:9
Focusing on Your Children
Children don’t need perfect mothers; they need present mothers. In the rush to feed, educate, and discipline, it’s easy to forget the hearts we’re meant to nurture, guide and support. This means more than just attending school events; it involves being emotionally available and providing a loving environment where they feel safe to express themselves.
Signs you need a reset with your children:
Most of your words are corrective rather than affirming.
They tiptoe around your moods instead of feeling safe.
You worry more about appearances than connection.
Reset strategies:
Shift from correction to connection. Affirm their effort, character, and uniqueness.
Create individual moments. Even 10 minutes of undivided attention given to each child means more than grand outings.
Model humility. Apologise when you’ve been harsh; it teaches them restoration is possible.
Rebuild trust. Small, consistent actions of love repair more than lectures ever will.
Setting aside quality time for family activities can create lasting memories and strengthen family bonds. Simple actions like reading together or sharing a meal can have profound impacts on a child's sense of belonging and security.
God → Marriage → Children: The Divine Order
With so many demands on our time, it is essential to recognise that it's not about perfection but about progress. God designed these relationships in a deliberate order. When the order is inverted, families strain:
Children-first marriages create anxious kids and disconnected spouses.
Marriage-first but God-absent homes run on human effort that eventually burns out.
God-first but spouse-neglected families make faith feel like duty, not love.
But when you align the order — God first, marriage second, children third — each relationship strengthens the others.
Your Reset Starts Today
Resetting your priorities to focus on God, marriage, and children can lead to a more fulfilling and enriched life. These core elements can provide stability and happiness, allowing you to face challenges with grace and resilience.
By realigning your focus, you not only enhance your own well-being but also positively influence those around you. In nurturing these relationships, you create a supportive environment where love and understanding thrive.
This week’s reset practice:
Day 1–2: God → Remove one distraction and start one new spiritual habit.
Day 3–4: Marriage → Apologise where needed, affirm intentionally, plan one connection moment.
Day 5–6: Children → Spend undivided time with each child, focusing on their heart not their behaviour.
Day 7: Integration → Reflect on how God’s presence empowered the other resets.
If this blog post spoke to your reality, that’s not by accident. It’s God’s gentle nudge that your family needs you to reset, not later, but now.
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Your family doesn’t just need a functioning version of you. They need a flourishing version of you. God has already given you everything you need.
The reset begins now. Your family’s future depends on it.